• The No Asshole Rule

    As part of my goal of improving my social skills, last month I read The No Asshole Rule by Robert I. Sutton. I started with that book because in my life — in friendships, academics, and professional settings — I’ve (sometimes) been called an asshole. Fortunately, after reading this book, I realize that although I might occasionally be a temporary asshole, I am no where near certified asshole territory.

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  • A Steady State of Adventure

    One must edge forward like the inchworm, bit by bit. The gods and Buddhas, too, first started with a vow.

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  • January in Review

    At the beginning of last month I outlined some goals I wanted to meet. Or not, as they weren’t at all SMART and the only measurement I settled on was “Am I happy with _____?” I think that was a great first step, and some goals work well with that format, and the motivating idea feels sound: maximize happiness, minimize regret, stay focused on the why over the what, and avoid comparison to some unmaintainable ideal. Still, I wonder if it’s too subjective and if the time frame for reflection is too short.

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  • An evolution of vomiting

    When our first born spat up as a baby, which she did rarely, she was all animal. She’d look up at me, her eyes sparkling or in tears depending on her general hunger but independent of the specifics of her digestion, and she seemed only to repeat one of her endless variations of the mantra of her existence: “I am.” Nothing had happened because nothing was happening. She was there, and I was there, and that was all.

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  • Moving forward into 2018

    I can’t remember the last time I made a New Year’s resolution. But goals may be prerequisite for growth, and the changing year is as good an excuse as any to reflect and plan. Still, it is difficult not to try to make a laundry list of defects which, if corrected, would yield a perfect person.

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